Watch your thought, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your habits, they become character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.

got this from rachel's blog. i think this is my answer. but it's not gonna be easy. i don't know why this chinese phrase popped up in my head. 3 years to learn good. 3 days to learn bad.

i feel like a freakin nerd now.